Every little thing beyond shut lips kissing and bare-skin contact is possibly unsafe,

At this stage of your life if you have issues around your personal sense of self worth, and if you feel that being submissive (albeit perhaps an enticing idea) might serve to confirm and consolidate your negative self image, you would do well to think hard about whether D/S play is for you.

the solution might very well be “no.” (And conversely, because they deserve no better, you may think about whether you would like a partner whom thinks therefore small of on their own. Continue reading →